Living in harmony: breaking down the walls of dysfunction, one brick at a time. Learning to adapt to a new healthy relationship can be very difficult.
Adapting to an unconditional relationship, is new uncharted territory for many. The true definition of love can only be realized when it is given and received unconditionally.
The most difficult part of understanding an unconditional relationship is realizing the unconditionality of it. Because you are always waiting for that judgement, the brick to fall on your head, that thing you didn’t do just right, therefore ruining everything!
It doesn’t have to be like that, it should not be like that, and if it is like that, you must stop, reassess and figure out where those feelings are coming from. Always remember that there is a lesson to learn and that each day is a new chance to start over and be happy!!
Think of the word “No” for a few seconds….
Did you have any positive feelings or thoughts associated to that word? Have you ever noticed how we automatically have a negative attachment to the word “No”? “NO” you didn’t get the job you wanted, “NO” you didn’t get the raise you requested, “NO” you can’t do that….we’ve all heard the thunder of “NO”. One of the greatest freedoms I have found is being able to make proper use of the word “NO”. Its very difficult because of how we always relate it to those negative feelings that we have. We spend day after day bogging ourselves down with requests that we cant fulfill…all because we are afraid to say no. We don’t want to hurt anyones feelings, disappoint anyone, or we definitely wouldn’t want anyone “to think bad of me”. A few years ago, I found myself so mentally drained that it began making physically sick! I had enough! I began to use “No” in my favor. With five children and very stressful job, I realized: I can make myself happy OR continue to worry over what others might think and keep chasing an unobtainable goal. I chose the first option. “NO” I can not drag 5 children to a party after driving an hour home from work….but I will send a gift. “NO” I can not spend all weekend baking to contribute to the bake sale at my kids school….but I will send some flour, chocolate chips, etc. “NO” I will not be able to –insert whatever you get requests for most often–but I CAN do—what ever fits your time schedule— This concept has worked wonders for me. I and my family are much happier because I’m not running around like a lunatic trying to attend to everyone else’s “needs”. I am learning to be kind to myself and in turn am more kind to others.
Contributing Editor……Bambi Powell
Fear is the natural reaction to getting closer to the truth.
Success and failures are two very equal parts in a very blessed life.
Failure is a learning process and part of the path to success. Failure in your life no matter the area, health, money or relationships can be devastating. But once we discover that there was nothing we could do to change it or to make it go away, then we must accept that it has happened. Accepting what has happened makes it possible for us to move forward. Only then can we take that energy and place it squarly for the BETTER. The energy is already in play, and if we are not careful we could become bitter.
So the next time we have a failure, we will take that energy and side with BETTER instead of bitter. We will then, and only then, be able to see the blessings in the so called “failure”.
Until next time,
Love, Linda H.
“If you bring forth what is within you, it will heal you. And if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.” (from the Gospel of St. Thomas)
We must deal with our feelings, whether they be good or bad, get it out, forgive ourselves first, then others, in order to let it go and move on.
On our path to greatness, there are many lessons presented to us in order to experience life to the fullest. Most of the time we do not realize the importance of it until we look back, sometimes years later.
Try to keep this in mind, especially on those truly trying days, where things just seem to be falling apart! The Universe will continue to present lessons to you, until you get the message! Stop, think and assess your feelings about the situation, maybe there is a lesson!
Never forget everyday is a brand new start, and opportunity to begin again and make a difference in your world!
Fear…we all have it. Fear of failure…fear of mistakes…fear of what others think, the list goes on and on. It took me 34 years to learn: The biggest thing to fear is what I call “death while living”. You see, thats how fear operates….it freezes you right where you are. You dont move forward and you certainly can’t move backward. You lie stagnant in a pool of “should have’s” and “why didn’t I’s”. Fear steals your hopes and dreams…and all the while life is still moving around you. You only have ONE life. You only have today. Chose to LIVE in each moment of each day….Contributing Editor, Bambi Powell
Once you commit to your dream, feel it in your heart and soul, and take that first step, The Universe says “ok, let’s do this!!” , and all sorts of things start happening to move you towards that goal. It can be as little as getting a good parking space, to as big as changing your entire life path.
Remember these three simple steps: Think it, Speak it, Write it!! Once you do this, you have already to made the first steps toward your goal!!
As W.H. Murray, The Scottish Himalayan Expedition once said: “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. “– W.H. Murray
*****prov·i·denceˈprävədəns/noun 1. the protective care of God or of nature as a spiritual power.”they found their trust in divine providence to be a source of comfort”
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From today forward, I will love, live and accept MYSELF and OTHERS, UNCONDITIONALLY. It always seems I am trying to hit the reset button…to start over, looking somewhere or to someone to make ME better, my life better, more fulfilling, more meaningful. I keep forgetting the number ONE rule is that it has to come from WITHIN…and we are most happy when we can just BE. As my sister put it to me, ” the authentic you is what you are after. Not what anyone else thinks of you, or who you are.” an it occurred to me, that was exactly right. I am always so caught up in the result of my action affecting my relationship with another, that I would just rather not do at all. This passive aggressive approach is exactly what I abhor about certain people and must change my thinking, and my actions as a result. ” You cannot get caught up in the outcome, you have no control over how others receive your intentions, only that we be the person we want to be” ” Be who you are and let it be enough”
Thank you dearest sister for the Inspiration and wisdom for this post!!
I received a very cool gift from a friend this year, and so I decided to look into it…this is what I found…what a true inspiration, The Universe knew I was ready to listen, and see what a difference one person can make…
check this out…I LOVE it!!
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“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” — Carl Jung