We all have wants. I would love to have a house with 7 bedrooms (one for everyone to have their own and a spare) and 6 bathrooms (four of our five children are girls. Enough said.) and it be paid for. I would love to have my dream job of a general physician that carries an old fashioned black bag and makes house calls. Heck, while Im at it, I would LOVE to have a housekeeper, chef, part time nanny, personal trainer, chauffeur (I better stop myself!) just to name a few on the top of my want list. But down here in realityville as I call it, I do not have any of those. I am your average working mom that has to schedule a time to shave my legs and lets not even talk about my roots. My house plants get their roots covered more than me. My husband is a simple man. He is my grounding wire. We are truly as opposite as night and day. He never gets bent out of shape, remains positive in any situation and still doesn’t have me convinced that at some point he wasn’t a ninja in some foreign land. He’s got mad organization skills that can have the whole house in shape while Im still trying to find where I put my glasses. One of my favorite things he says is “It fits the need”. No matter what we are doing we look first to see if it fits the need….not the want. Its it difficult when we have four girls arguing over one bathroom every morning. Its difficult when there is not one place I can go for five minuets to have my own time out and not hear someone else’s voice. Difficult when I pray every day our work car with 250,000 miles makes that hour long trek just one more time. There are a lot of things I “want”. My husband does too, but we know that there are responsibilities that come along with obtaining our “wants”. He reminds me that everything we want isn’t everything we need. By sharing that bathroom each day, our girls are learning to be patient, take turns, share and work with what you have. If they really want to learn a lesson, they will get up a little earlier to start the day and get their bathroom turn first. As your Southern Granny says “The early bird catches the worm”. How often do we focus on what we want instead of what we HAVE? How much would I miss if I had that “big enough” house and all the extras to go with it? In realityville I don’t need any of those things. I already have the housekeeper, chef, nanny, personal trainer, and the chauffeur. She’s also a wife and mom. She fits the need. That she, is ME. Yes, there are things that I THINK would make my life more simple, but I am grateful for my husband and the ability to manage what I have already. It fits the need. I will be thankful for what I have TODAY.
Contributing Editor: Bambi Pate-Powell